Today I had the rare opportunity to have a bird’s eye view of myself through two young women. Both young women shared the same birthday. The first was a young woman that at age 21 was the mother of three the oldest being 6. The second young woman also 21 was entering into her second month of graduate studies. I was struck by the contrast of these two young women that shared the same date of birth and in my mind I traveled their 21 year journey. I saw myself in the young mother although motherhood didn’t start as young for me as it did this young lady I loved being a young mother. I took many detours and used government assistance to help take care of my baby's needs as a 22 year old mother. I worked and went to school for my real estate license. I always had many dreams and although pregnancy was unexpected my dreams just changed to include both of us. As time went on my family grew and it included my children’s father who became my husband 19 years and counting. My children gave me focus and increased desire. I wonder if it would be the same for this young mother who at 21 had a huge responsibility to provide and direct these 3 children at her young age. Then my mind shifted to the 21 year old graduate student. I have known her all her life. She did not come from money or privilege. I knew her to have a deep desire and to face obstacles with and all out assault. There was no way she would let any circumstance beat her. I thought about my struggles and how many times I felt like I wasn’t going to make it or get to where I wanted to be. I thought about the times where the bills were larger than my income and I could see my friends progressing in their education and professions.
I could see my past and my future in these two young ladies. These young women represented my life and both paths I pursued. I judge neither young woman because who am I to judge. I will not tell one over the other you’re better or not better. I would encourage both keep reaching and striving for your goals and although you made different choices and one path may take longer or have different challenges you can still overcome and make it. I hope young women never settle for where they are. If you have a High School Diploma go for college credits, if you have some college behind you do what it takes to get that Associates Degree or Bachelors, if that’s not in reach get a certificate. My heart is and will always have a soft spot for mothers that against all odds never give up, don’t quit, won’t quit and never say die… Young women even if in life you have not made the best choices- keep it moving- His mercies are new everyday. I encourage you to find out who you are supposed to be and reject anything and everything that causes you to doubt yourself. You Have Power…
Today I embarked on a new journey and I want to share with you why. As I get closer to another birthday I have searched my heart and mind and have taken inventory. As I reviewed the list I saw areas that were falling short and places that were hollow. I am a wife, mother, daughter, sister, Aunt, friend, and most importantly a child of God. In my self analysis I discovered that in all my doing I was leaving someone out. This deep look inside was further sparked as I thought of our beloved Whitney Houston’s passing and not to be critical, but I thought of the party taking place in the same building where her spirit had just departed. I realized the world goes on no matter the happenstance.
This revelation took me to that place of interspection and I saw the person I was leaving out in all my sincere intentions and in my desire to do good, I left her behind and she was frail in spirit, weak in confidence and weary looking on the outside.
I decided I wanted control back and it started today. I hope that you will join me in this journey. I realize we may have different paths that we will take. My hope and desire is that we encourage each other through the process. Today was a beginning of self awareness for me. My mind body and soul are ready to be rejuvenated. Let’s grow together. As women we are very unique and our sisterhood so important to our growth. I look forward to sharing our struggles and solutions. I look forward to the strength we will find with one another. I am not doing this alone My trainer the Fitness Doctor aka Reverend Kahlil Carmichael is helping me to get focused on my diet and exercise. He has designed a manageable work out program for me that I can do at home. I am listening to Find A Way to Make A Way by Harold S. Reed to motivate me and I seek my Heavenly Father to encourage my spirit. One step at a time ladies lets take one step at a time.