It seems as though we as a people are always worried about what the next man or woman is doing with their lives. All this does is breed jealousy, envy and hatred. If you have seen the move Seven then you know where those emotions can lead. Take a long look at yourself and where you are in respect to where you want to be. May be the one thing holding you back the most from attaining whatever you desire is looking right back at you in the mirror every morning. This may be a harsh reality for some, but if your honest with yourself and don’t want to lead yourself astray then you will give yourself a brutal self evaluation. I look in the mirror and what I see is a man trying to do the best he can, but has faults that need to be addressed. I am going to open up and let you know what I think I need to work on to be a better man/person/contributor to society.
One of my major faults is I am very quick to judge someone and get my mind set in a way that it’s hard to change my opinions. This has lead to plenty of hard feelings between me and other people for no valid reasoning beyond my own rushed assessment of them. This may be the hardest of them all for me to correct, because I have to learn that we are not all the same and not all on the same mental/emotional/spiritual level. I have to realize that just because I see things one way and portray someone’s actions as wrong, they in turn may not consider what they are doing as wrong or bothering me. I think this stems from my belief that everyone has common sense and should know how to do the simplest tasks. But in reality what may be simple to me may be extremely difficult to another. This works the other way too, what I may see as extremely difficult may be an easy task to someone else. I have to learn to accept that I have limitations as well as every other person walking this earth. Not judge a person by his/her limitations, but help them work through them to make them a better person. In return I would hope they would return the same actions towards me. If I can do that I think it will make me a better man and person.
Now I have stepped out on the limb to reveal one of my major faults. Can you do the same? It really helps to see who you really are when you put things down in writing, and have them staring back at you. This process works in setting personal goals, they say write them down and put them were you can see. This will help the dream become reality. So write down your faults and what you think you need to work on and work towards crossing them off the list one by one. This may be a lifelong process and you may never completely whip your list clean but with each deletion you will be one step towards being the man or woman that you want to be in life.
Do this open and freely and don’t worry about what other people have to say about you. You be you and let them be them, hence the variation from my title. There are times when we have to be concerned with each other and there are times when we need to focus on ourselves. For this to work you have to really and truly be brutally honest with yourself and not lie to yourself. After this initial self evaluation its ok to get someone else’s take on your conclusions. Run the list by someone close to you and get their views on it. Tweak it if needed and then you are on your way to becoming a better person, to yourself and the people around you…..The_Ghost_BKS1
Tonight on the live in the vocal booth show we bring you the soulful sounds of Heather Headley for our artist review segment. Only One In The World is Heather Headley's latest release, join our interactive review process where your opinion counts. Followed at 11 pm by our topic for the night, Its Business Never Personal!
Artist Review: Heather Headley
Heather Headley, is a Trinidadian-American R&B and soul singer, songwriter, record producer, and actress. She has won one Tony Award and one Grammy Award.
In 1997, she originated the role of Nala in The Lion King, the Broadway musical. Headley's performance was well received, and she then originated the title role in the Broadway adaptation of Aida, earning the Tony Award for Best Actress in 2000. In 1999, she appeared in the Encores! production of Do Re Mi, with Nathan Lane, Randy Graff, and Brian Stokes Mitchell. She also starred in a concert version of the musical Dreamgirls alongside Audra McDonald and Lillias White.
In the autumn of 2006, Heather performed Hal David and Burt Bacharach's song "I'll Never Fall In Love Again", from the 1968 musical Promises, Promises for "The Kennedy Center Presents: The 2006 Mark Twain Prize", honoring playwright Neil Simon. The ceremony was later broadcast on PBS.
On 5 July 2007 Headley made a guest appearance for Andrea Bocelli's Vivere Live in Tuscany concert in Lajatico, Italy. They performed Vivo Per Lei and The Prayer. Headley sang "My Country, 'Tis of Thee" (also known as "America") with Josh Groban on January 18, 2009 during the We Are One: The Obama Inaugural Celebration at the Lincoln Memorial. On March 12, 2009, Headley sang, "I Wish" on The Tonight Show with Jay Leno.
From November 2012, Headley will play the role of Rachel Marron, in the musical adaptation of Whitney Houston's 1992 movie, The Bodyguard at London's Adelphi Theatre.
Headley released her debut album, This Is Who I Am, in October 2002 on RCA Records. Although its first single, "He Is", was not very successful, the second single, "I Wish I Wasn't", achieved moderate success. The work on this album earned her a Grammy Award nomination for Best Female R&B Vocal Performance and for Best New Artist.
Her second album, In My Mind, was delayed due to the various executive shake-ups associated with RCA parent BMG's merger with Sony.
Under BMG North America chairman/CEO Clive Davis for the first time, Headley released her second album In My Mind in January 2006. The title track "In My Mind" (produced by India.Arie collaborator Shannon Sanders) was released as the first single; and its music video was directed by Diane Martel. The song reached number-one on the U.S. Hot Dance Music/Club Play chart. The second single "Me Time" was sent to Urban AC radio only. An album track, "Am I Worth It", served to promote Headley's New March of Dimes Educational Campaign "I Want My 9 Months".
In 2009, Headley, along with Al Green, released a version of the song "People Get Ready" on the compilation album Oh Happy Day: An All-Star Music Celebration.
On the January 31, 2010, Heather won her first Grammy Award for Best Contemporary R&B Gospel Album for Audience of One on the EMI Gospel label.
In December 2010, Headley performed a duet version of "Blue Christmas" and "My Prayer" with Italian tenor Andrea Bocelli on Bocelli's "My Christmas" tour in six cities. At the Prudential Center in Newark, NJ on December 4, 2010, the audience insisted on a second encore with Bocelli. Bocelli had to summon the detail to go back and get her to come back on stage. Heather Headley announced that she will release her new album Only One in the World on September 25, 2012 with the lead single "A Little While".
People say that business is never personal but is that always true? When it comes to friendship, when business occurs some people might not be conscious of the difference. How can friends avoid tarnishing their friendship on the account of business? Tune in to bks1radio.com tonight from 10pm to1am. Let's talk on it!
Tonight on the O.nly W.omen W.ear H.igh H.eels show the ladies discuss the divide between light skinned and dark skinned people. The battle has raged for many years and never seems to lose steam or fade away. Join the ladies to help shed some light on this age old problem facing society. In studio tonight we have the amazingly talented singer/entertainer Alex Young.
Topic: Light Skinned vs Dark Skinned
As much as we try to avoid it skin tone and racism of the past still plays a major part among the mainstream of today's society.
Party promoters offer discounts based on the color of your skin. Employers tend to hire certain skin tones regardless of qualifications. Mixed races may have an advantage as society places them above whites and higher than blacks. Also, Media may tend to promote certain shades simply because it looks good on camera or in videos.
Stereotypes such as: "I only date light skinned people because they are prettier". Or, "I only date dark skinned people because they are more loyal" only adds to further color separation and negative division among society.
Some people immediately do not like you the moment they walk through the door. If you are dark skinned they think you are evil or have a bad attitude. If you are light skinned some people tend to associate you as being stuck up.
Is it true that black people are the only race that constantly separated themselves by skin color or by words of separation such as sexy chocolate or sexy vanilla?
Join Bks1radio.com and the ladies of OWWHH Friday at 11:00 pm as we go deep on this topic.
Special Guest: Singer Alex Young
Pop-phenomena Alex Young started out as a regular on Sesame Street, and then shocked the music scene with the release of her debut album “Amazing.”
Musical Director on Lady Gaga’s world tour, Kern Brantley had this to say about the pop sensation. “As a musical director, I have been fortunate to work with some of the top female artists in the world such as Beyonce, Lady Gaga, Mary J. Blige, Aaliyah, Monica, and Faith Evans just to name a few. Upon meeting and working with Alex Young, all I can say is here we go again! Alex is the next generation of modern music.”
Alex has proven that she is a true entertainer. Her powerful presence exploded onstage with her opening for Cee Lo Green at the Mahaffey Theater in St. Petersburg, Florida, where she unveiled her all new 2012 club show. Alex was featured as an opening act on July 26th at the WBLS Summer Stage show in New York City as part of her summer tour. She is also currently working on her next album, scheduled for release early 2013. "I’m really excited about the new direction I'm pushing for my album. A funky electro-pop sound that's gonna make you wanna jump up and do that dance!"
Alex's love of music and strong work ethic, coupled with A-list production teams and choreography is a proven formula for success. In addition to her new music, she is also focusing her time on her new fashion line, “A Young Rose”, which she recently launched as a participating e-tailer at Fashion’s Night Out during New York Fashion Week 2012.This created a great “buzz” as the blogs were calling her one of the top ten best dressed at the tents.
Today, Alex Young fills a whole new lane in the world of music entertainment and stands poised to explode on the global music scene.