You are back on the dating scene after a serious break up. You’re enjoying the idea of some casual dating and getting back into the swing of things, but the relationship with your latest prospect is getting pretty serious. What’s the big deal? Well, dating this time around is a bit different because you are no longer on the market by yourself…you are now a package deal.
Dating after already having children can be reenergizing but also worrisome. In the midst of falling in love you are also burdened with questions: When should I introduce the kids to my new love? How? Should I talk to them about it first? What if they tell me don’t want to meet him, or worse, tell me they don’t want me dating anyone?
Introducing your children to your new partner is important. They will become a part of the child’s life as well as yours. The situation must be handled delicately, in the right time, and there are a few things you can do to make things go easier.
An affair is usually a symptom of other problems in a relationship. Now is the time for each of you to fully examine not only your relationship, but yourselves as well. Have we just run our course? Are we better off just as friends? Is there too much hurt to move on from this? A high percentage of the wronged partners will walk away and never look back, and then there are an impressive percentage of partners who decide to stay and give it another shot. Some relationships not only survive, but they actually grow in the aftermath of an affair. An affair challenges both partners to look at themselves and their relationship in a radically new way. Staying and trying to survive the betrayal and hurt is commendable but there are some things that need to be considered.
Whether you and your partner love each other unconditionally or whether the two of you fight every minute, your relationship is going down hill, and you feel like it's almost over. All relationships lose their sparkle and passion after a while and if you don't do something about it, you can easily become strangers and problems can surface. What can you do to get that "spark" back and have a thriving relationship again?
Join Relationship Coach Sadie tonight on the "Let's Get It On w/Relationship Coach Sadie" show. 9-10pm every Saturday on www.bks1radio.com. Tonight's topic "The Fight for Real Love" When the love is not genuine. Join the experience..........
"The Fight for Real Love"
"Romantic love has the intensity, engagement and sexual chemistry that [the 'falling in love' phase] has, minus the obsessive component."
Genuine love nurtures an empathic connection to self and other that allows both partners in a couple relationship to grow a compassionate understanding of the personal value each partner brings to their life.
A sense of one's value cannot be given by another, however. It is an inner quality that is fostered within self, a skill that must be learned, more often the hard way, if at all, throughout the course of a relationship.
This quality is a prerequisite to becoming a mature giver in your relationship. How else can a partner give one another what each most yearns - a secure shared connection with the other, in which they are also seen and valued for the unique person they are. This idea is covered by the following:
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Marvin Sapp was introduced to the gospel community by Fred Hammond as a six year member of the vocal group Commissioned. "I am a preacher - called by God - who happens to sing," is the way he defines his ministry - which was given its official blessing upon his receiving of the Doctor of Divinity Degree from Aenon Bible College and the Doctor of Ministry Degree from Friends International Christian University. Sapp’s previous releases as a solo artist are the self-titled Marvin Sapp (his solo debut for Word Records – 1996); Grace & Mercy: Live (1997); Nothing Else Matters (1999); I Believe (his 2002 Verity debut); Diary of a Psalmist (2003); Be Exalted (2005) and Thirsty (2007).
When he isn’t spreading the word of God through over 200 preaching and speaking engagements a year, Sapp ministers at The Lighthouse Full Life Center Church in Grand Rapids, where he is senior pastor. By 2012, he hopes to have built a 1,500 seat sanctuary connecting to “FLC.” His ultimate goal: to encourage Believers to elevate their level of worship and praise.
Tonight’s Topic: Being Judgmental- A State of Superior Airs or A State of Self-hate?
Have you ever encountered a person that can just point out everything you do wrong or are struggling with? Often times this person could be a friend, family member or a coworker. This individual may have a critical spirit or a genuine desire to help you improve your short comings. Whatever the reason good or bad how do you feel when they approach you? Are you able to receive the criticism? Do you see their short comings and complexly reject the whole encounter as hypocrisy. Could it be the very thing the person is trying to correct in you is the thing they despise in themselves?
Tonight the ‘Live in the Vocal Booth Team” will discusses being Judgmental and how it can effects all involved..
Special Guest: J. Kingdom (aka Pastor Michael J.T. Fisher)
J. Kingdom became the Pastor of the Greater Zion Church Family at the young age of 26! Over the years, he has become known throughout the community and abroad for his ability to reach and reform troubled youth and young adults. Mothers, fathers and the many Grandparents’s who have been left to care for their teen grand children often call upon him to help re-direct their troubled youth. Fisher has taken the once small Church in Compton from approximately 400 members to more than 4500! That’s huge in COMPTON!
The Greater Zion Church Family is located in Compton, CA and is literally nestled in between two rivalry gang territories. Fisher has experienced great success in changing/saving the lives of many of them by spending time with them, counseling, listening and providing a platform for them to express themselves through the arts. Fisher believes that there are so many young talented people who just need a platform to express their frustrations. They just want someone to hear and understand their plight and their struggles in hopes to finding a solution. And that is when Pastor Fisher does his best work, offering them the keys to a better life and a divinely intended destiny! He helps them find the “Champion” within themselves. (hence, the album title “Champion”).
In 2010, Fisher lead the Voices of Destiny, a 50+ voice choir to a highly publicized sweeping victory in the national competition of Verizon’s How Sweet the Sound Contest. People were AMAZED to find out that not only was this a group of talented young people but many of its members were reformed gang members, drug dealers, drug users, delinquent’s and high school drop outs. Many had spent time in juvenile hall or had been arrested at some point in their young lives. The win opened up doors for them that they could have never imagined and they are still riding that wave of success to date.
Some of the shows they have been featured on include: BET Celebration of Gospel, the Official Super Bowl Gospel Celebration, Pan African Film Festival, NBA All Star Gospel Brunch Children’s Mending Hearts w/Ben Affleck, DIVAS Simply Singing w/Sheryl Lee Ralph, the Today’s Show, NBC Nightly News, CNN, KTLA Black History Special, KTLA Morning News, Jet Magazine, EURweb, The Examiner.com and more.
The choir used the winnings from How Sweet the Sound to complete the first youth center in South Compton, CA and they remain extremely active in the community helping to rescue other youth’s and young adults from their toxic environments. They offer tutoring, counseling, STD testing and a place to belong with a large family that cares about every area of their lives!
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The Grown Sexy Situation team is back with another hot topic tonight and two special guests. Tonight we discuss Exes and relationships, guaranteed to be a hot issue with many of you. Get grown and sexy with the convo about this adult situation facing many in today's society. Chime in with your opinions on how to handle your X when you have a new relationship.
How do you deal with your X? When your X knows you have a new relationship, can that be a big problem? Has an X-Factor asked you out on a date, knowing that you’re in a relationship? Why do they think it’s ok to cross that threshold? Have you ever entertained the possibility of going out with your X while you’re in a relationship? Would you tell your significant other or not?
Joining us tonight are two very special and talented guests: Author Dawn L. Forte and Singer Derion Hall.
Author Dawn L. Forte
Dawn Forte' is from Plainfied, NJ. She's the mother of four adult children and 2 beautiful grandchildren. "The Sum of My Mistakes is her debut novel. She's also writes poetry and has done spoken word at various places in the past. Dawn suffers from the chronic pain disorder Fibromyalgia. She can be found at her local cafe working on her next novel or some poetry or relaxing at home with her family.
Dawn can be contacted by email at
Singer Derion Hall
Derion Hall, Originally from Dayton, Ohio, was raised in a musical family... yet had no idea that singing, writing, and entertaining would ultimately be his passion. Part military brat, part go-getter, Derion was no stranger to dedication and making big moves. In his teens he discovered that he too had a god-given musical ear and aptitude for singing, performing, and writing.
In the midst of determining his life path, his urge to entertain the masses dictated his next move. Armed with his natural talent and desire, he set off to New York City to pursue his dream..becoming a major recording artist.
While making his living as a fitness model, personal trainer and gym manager, Derion spent all his spare time writing and networking. He did a few "singing competition" tv show cattle calls and quickly learned that wasn't the route he wanted to go. He then tapped long- time family friend and producer Tyrice "Tyjamz" Jones to complete his musical vision.
That collaboration has resulted in the emergence of the real Derion Hall. The singer, dancer, writer, and entertainer. A fearless vibe that will make you dance, get you right at the club, catch the ladies, and get heads noddin! Come find out what we already know. Derion Hall. #BlessedAndHumble
Mistress: A mysterious sexy woman that a married man sees in secret to have a romantic and sexual relationship with. This is the definition of a mistress. There is good sex, hotel room adventures, late nights, seductive phone calls, exciting secret dates, gifts and the thrill of doing something bad. But is being a mistress as glamorous as it seems?
Yes, BUT only at first. Being a mistress has its exciting moments and these are the moments that convince women to become a mistress in the first place. In the beginning, the mistress holds all the power. She is the one who has the married man under a love spell and she gets all his attention and time that he should be spending with his wife. She is the one he fantasizes about when he is with his wife and the one he misses. He urges for her company and longs to hear her voice.
Being a mistress offers a lot of convenes: the woman gets dined and treated like a lady, she gets as much sex as time permits, she may even get some money for shopping not having to wash anyone else’s socks and she doesn’t have to put up with sport on the TV or have to deal with the man coming back drunk.
A mistress is a lover, not a wife!
What is the benefit of being a wife as opposed to his mistress? Marriage is for companionship, general well being, and sharing decisions while sexual intimacy is a celebration of togetherness, not the reason for togetherness.
Join Relationship coach Sadie as she discusses the sticky situation created when a tangled web of love and deception takes place between husband, wife, and mistress. Are you in a relationship like this? Are you the Mistress, Wife, or Husband? Call in 646-233-1302 with your thoughts, views, or questions.
“On a JOURNEY to the TOP...enjoying every moment along the way!”
To say that Usman Sharif is one of the entertainment industry’s, and in fact the world's rising talents would be an understatement. With numerous high-profiled feature film dramas and comedies and guest starring sitcom appearances credited to his name and a list of successful businesses he personally owns and in some cases operate, the cliché, “the sky is the limit” truthfully applies to this extraordinary, yet humble man.
Born and raised in Newark, New Jersey, Usman has two sisters and three brothers. Although his parents divorced when he was eight, Usman remained close with his Father whom he credits his strong faith and entrepreneurial spirit. This lead Usman to eventually major in business administration at Essex County College, graduating in 1994. Usman then went on to Kean University in Union, NJ in pursuit of his Bachelors of Science degree in Business Management.
He launched a number of successful businesses over the next several years yet his inclination and desire to entertain grew in his heart and soul. In 2002, Usman confirmed his feelings of wanting to entertain the masses when one evening while watching a film, he realized he belonged on screen instead of in the audience. Thus in 2003, Usman decided to begin his journey in pursuing entertainment professionally. He partnered with a friend to produce a documentary about women and their everyday struggles, which did very well in the film festival circuit, winning several awards including The Audience Award in The New York International Film Festival. This eventually relocated Usman to Los Angeles, Ca. Before his trek out west, Usman joined an acting class given by the well-respected acting teacher Tracey Moore. She then introduced Usman to her husband (at the time), director Maurice Marable, who cast him in his first break – a commercial for HBO’s “Real Time with Bill Maher.”
Usman then landed pivotal supporting roles in the following high-profile feature films; Spike Lee’s WWII epic “Miracle at St. Anna,” as “Radio man Hughes” along side Derek Luke, Michael Ealy, Laz Alonzo, Omar Benson, and Walton Goggins. “You’re nobody til Somebody Kills You, produced by Spike Lee, “Notorious,” directed by George TillmanJr., chronicling the life of well-known rap artist Notorious B.I.G., and "3 Can Play That Game", as Alex starring Vivica A. Fox and directed by Samad Davis. Usman also starred in “HUG”, ( 2009 Sundance Film Festival) and landed guest starring roles on HBO’s “The Wire” and “Tyler Perry's House of Payne” as Firefighter Perkins.
No stranger to the titles Executive Producer and Producer, Usman Executive produced an award winning documentary entitled "A Pillar of Salt, The Angry Woman Syndrome", and the award winning and contest winning short film "Glimpse" which was the prelude to the award winning feature film "Mooz-Lum" (did not produce) starring Nia Long, Evan Ross, Danny Glover, Dorian Missick and Roger Guenervire Smith. Usman Produced the documentary "Minds of Men" (in which he also starred). Usman is currently overseas in Ghana, West Africa Co-Executive Producing a new television reality show entitled "The Spirited Actor; Africa's Next Big Hollywood Star." He has plans to plant roots in Ghana furthering the "Gollywood" system of entertainment currently running there.
Usman continues to enjoy producing a variety of business opportunities as well. Usman has JUST finished production on "Criminal Behavior", a feature film that was filmed in Atlanta in May 2012 and that he has Executive Produced, Produced and Starred in. "CriminalBehavior" is an film based on dealing with one's past to help create and protect a better future. Usman is already in pre-production for his next feature film that he's doing with Newark Native Alonzo Herran called "Living With No Regrets", which is a biopic based off Mr. Herran's life. Usman will Produce and have a principle role in this film. Usman currently owns two frozen dessert restaurants, which is part of the huge Rita's Water Ice franchise and a construction company, a real estate investment firm and a property management company. Usman is also the Co-Founder, President and COO of Davis Media Ghana Limited, an overseas entertainment firm. In his spare time, if there is such a thing for him, Usman enjoys weight training, boxing, football, basketball, softball, Tae Kwon Do (a second degree black belt) motorcycling and spending as much time with his family as possible.
So as you can see and as Usman is quick to tell you, if you want to watch this young man's meteoric rise to the top...
Let's Get It On w/ Relationship Coach Sadie, Use it or lose it, stay on top of your relationship and know there is always room for improvement. Relationship coach Sadie shows you how to keep your relationship fresh and energized. Learn How & When to upgrade your relationship. Call in 646-233-1302 or chat live, get answers to your relationship questions.