One of the most challenging parts of any divorce, separation or break-up from a long-term relationship is getting along with your ex. In some cases, after you´ve divided up your possessions and worked out other financial and practical matters, you can wipe the slate clean and never look back.
If children are involved, though, this is not usually an option. You have to learn how to get along, be adults, and let go of your resentments -- not only for your own well-being but for the sake of your children. Now, if you´re thinking your kids can´t tell that you´re harboring feelings of resentment, anger or betrayal toward your ex because you mask it so well on the surface, think again. Children respond to who you are and how you feel more than how you pretend to be.
In time, and as you begin to release naturally, your feelings of resentment against your spouse will melt away. While this will make getting along with your ex much easier on you, the most important thing is the impact it will have on your children. They will definitely appreciate your openness to your ex, and in turn will develop a deeper, more open relationship with you.
If anyone you know is currently going through a divorce or break up and they have children, do pass the show info along to them so that they, too, can benefit from this show topic as well.
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With Halloween just days away what could be more terrifying than a date from HELL! Whether the person is late, talks about all of the wrong things, or just a plain jerk find out ways to identify if a date is on its way to destruction or salvation. The ladies of OWWHH are here to help you dodge dating disasters! Join us Live for another new episode on the OWWHH Show ….. Only Women Wear High Heels.
Marvin Sapp was introduced to the gospel community by Fred Hammond as a six year member of the vocal group Commissioned. "I am a preacher - called by God - who happens to sing," is the way he defines his ministry - which was given its official blessing upon his receiving of the Doctor of Divinity Degree from Aenon Bible College and the Doctor of Ministry Degree from Friends International Christian University. Sapp’s previous releases as a solo artist are the self-titled Marvin Sapp (his solo debut for Word Records – 1996); Grace & Mercy: Live (1997); Nothing Else Matters (1999); I Believe (his 2002 Verity debut); Diary of a Psalmist (2003); Be Exalted (2005) and Thirsty (2007).
When he isn’t spreading the word of God through over 200 preaching and speaking engagements a year, Sapp ministers at The Lighthouse Full Life Center Church in Grand Rapids, where he is senior pastor. By 2012, he hopes to have built a 1,500 seat sanctuary connecting to “FLC.” His ultimate goal: to encourage Believers to elevate their level of worship and praise.
Tonight’s Topic: Being Judgmental- A State of Superior Airs or A State of Self-hate?
Have you ever encountered a person that can just point out everything you do wrong or are struggling with? Often times this person could be a friend, family member or a coworker. This individual may have a critical spirit or a genuine desire to help you improve your short comings. Whatever the reason good or bad how do you feel when they approach you? Are you able to receive the criticism? Do you see their short comings and complexly reject the whole encounter as hypocrisy. Could it be the very thing the person is trying to correct in you is the thing they despise in themselves?
Tonight the ‘Live in the Vocal Booth Team” will discusses being Judgmental and how it can effects all involved..
Special Guest: J. Kingdom (aka Pastor Michael J.T. Fisher)
J. Kingdom became the Pastor of the Greater Zion Church Family at the young age of 26! Over the years, he has become known throughout the community and abroad for his ability to reach and reform troubled youth and young adults. Mothers, fathers and the many Grandparents’s who have been left to care for their teen grand children often call upon him to help re-direct their troubled youth. Fisher has taken the once small Church in Compton from approximately 400 members to more than 4500! That’s huge in COMPTON!
The Greater Zion Church Family is located in Compton, CA and is literally nestled in between two rivalry gang territories. Fisher has experienced great success in changing/saving the lives of many of them by spending time with them, counseling, listening and providing a platform for them to express themselves through the arts. Fisher believes that there are so many young talented people who just need a platform to express their frustrations. They just want someone to hear and understand their plight and their struggles in hopes to finding a solution. And that is when Pastor Fisher does his best work, offering them the keys to a better life and a divinely intended destiny! He helps them find the “Champion” within themselves. (hence, the album title “Champion”).
In 2010, Fisher lead the Voices of Destiny, a 50+ voice choir to a highly publicized sweeping victory in the national competition of Verizon’s How Sweet the Sound Contest. People were AMAZED to find out that not only was this a group of talented young people but many of its members were reformed gang members, drug dealers, drug users, delinquent’s and high school drop outs. Many had spent time in juvenile hall or had been arrested at some point in their young lives. The win opened up doors for them that they could have never imagined and they are still riding that wave of success to date.
Some of the shows they have been featured on include: BET Celebration of Gospel, the Official Super Bowl Gospel Celebration, Pan African Film Festival, NBA All Star Gospel Brunch Children’s Mending Hearts w/Ben Affleck, DIVAS Simply Singing w/Sheryl Lee Ralph, the Today’s Show, NBC Nightly News, CNN, KTLA Black History Special, KTLA Morning News, Jet Magazine, EURweb, The Examiner.com and more.
The choir used the winnings from How Sweet the Sound to complete the first youth center in South Compton, CA and they remain extremely active in the community helping to rescue other youth’s and young adults from their toxic environments. They offer tutoring, counseling, STD testing and a place to belong with a large family that cares about every area of their lives!
Call in 646-233-1302 or chat live with our chat rebels. Let us know your opinions and Join the BKS1 Radio experience!
The Grown Sexy Situation team is back with another hot topic tonight and two special guests. Tonight we discuss Exes and relationships, guaranteed to be a hot issue with many of you. Get grown and sexy with the convo about this adult situation facing many in today's society. Chime in with your opinions on how to handle your X when you have a new relationship.
How do you deal with your X? When your X knows you have a new relationship, can that be a big problem? Has an X-Factor asked you out on a date, knowing that you’re in a relationship? Why do they think it’s ok to cross that threshold? Have you ever entertained the possibility of going out with your X while you’re in a relationship? Would you tell your significant other or not?
Joining us tonight are two very special and talented guests: Author Dawn L. Forte and Singer Derion Hall.
Author Dawn L. Forte
Dawn Forte' is from Plainfied, NJ. She's the mother of four adult children and 2 beautiful grandchildren. "The Sum of My Mistakes is her debut novel. She's also writes poetry and has done spoken word at various places in the past. Dawn suffers from the chronic pain disorder Fibromyalgia. She can be found at her local cafe working on her next novel or some poetry or relaxing at home with her family.
Dawn can be contacted by email at
Singer Derion Hall
Derion Hall, Originally from Dayton, Ohio, was raised in a musical family... yet had no idea that singing, writing, and entertaining would ultimately be his passion. Part military brat, part go-getter, Derion was no stranger to dedication and making big moves. In his teens he discovered that he too had a god-given musical ear and aptitude for singing, performing, and writing.
In the midst of determining his life path, his urge to entertain the masses dictated his next move. Armed with his natural talent and desire, he set off to New York City to pursue his dream..becoming a major recording artist.
While making his living as a fitness model, personal trainer and gym manager, Derion spent all his spare time writing and networking. He did a few "singing competition" tv show cattle calls and quickly learned that wasn't the route he wanted to go. He then tapped long- time family friend and producer Tyrice "Tyjamz" Jones to complete his musical vision.
That collaboration has resulted in the emergence of the real Derion Hall. The singer, dancer, writer, and entertainer. A fearless vibe that will make you dance, get you right at the club, catch the ladies, and get heads noddin! Come find out what we already know. Derion Hall. #BlessedAndHumble
Mistress: A mysterious sexy woman that a married man sees in secret to have a romantic and sexual relationship with. This is the definition of a mistress. There is good sex, hotel room adventures, late nights, seductive phone calls, exciting secret dates, gifts and the thrill of doing something bad. But is being a mistress as glamorous as it seems?
Yes, BUT only at first. Being a mistress has its exciting moments and these are the moments that convince women to become a mistress in the first place. In the beginning, the mistress holds all the power. She is the one who has the married man under a love spell and she gets all his attention and time that he should be spending with his wife. She is the one he fantasizes about when he is with his wife and the one he misses. He urges for her company and longs to hear her voice.
Being a mistress offers a lot of convenes: the woman gets dined and treated like a lady, she gets as much sex as time permits, she may even get some money for shopping not having to wash anyone else’s socks and she doesn’t have to put up with sport on the TV or have to deal with the man coming back drunk.
A mistress is a lover, not a wife!
What is the benefit of being a wife as opposed to his mistress? Marriage is for companionship, general well being, and sharing decisions while sexual intimacy is a celebration of togetherness, not the reason for togetherness.
Join Relationship coach Sadie as she discusses the sticky situation created when a tangled web of love and deception takes place between husband, wife, and mistress. Are you in a relationship like this? Are you the Mistress, Wife, or Husband? Call in 646-233-1302 with your thoughts, views, or questions.
What has happened to marriage?! Til death do us part. For better or worse. Those terms are just spoken word for a elegant ceremony that you and your spouse paid for. In some cases even justice of the peace marriages crumble under the pressure of infidelity, money, children, and whatever other reasons marriage is not that sacred thing that it used to be, but WHY?
Why is marriage easy to get into and easier to get out of? Tonight the LIVB team dissect divorce and separation. We invite you the viewer to call in with your divorce stories or your staying in a marriage secrets for all to hear, LIVE IN THE VOCAL BOOTH!!!
Call in 646-233-1302 and let us know your thoughts on marriage, divorce and separation. Do you believe in pushing through the tough times and making a relationship work or do you quit at the first sign of adversity? Let Us Know!
Can Sex Too Early In A Relationship Be A Deal Breaker
When you meet a person that you think may be the one, how soon is to soon to have sex? Did you ever have sex with your "new" partner and u never even got to know the important things about them like their turn ons and turn offs or never even met there family.
In 2012 with us wanting things "yesterday", are we giving those we come in contact with a fair chance. Have you ever had sex with person you thought you were attracted to and realized they were not what you wanted and that you should have waited to get to know them first.
Time to get Grown, Sexy & Talk About The Situation.
Special Guest: VH1's Love and Hip Hop Co-star Freddie Robinson
Freddie Robinson is most known for producing the song “Psychotic” by rapper Jim Jones’s mother, Nancy aka Mama Jones. It is a diss record to her future daughter-in-law, Chrissy Lampkin. The song set off a wave of drama on both seasons of “Love & Hip Hop”. It helped ruined the friendship between Yandy Smith (Jim Jones’s ex-manager), and Chrissy (Jim Jones’s fiancee). Ever since all the controversy surrounded the song, many wonder who produced it. The song became a viral sensation, and a surprise hit for Mama Jones, and Freddie Robinson.
He is currently helping Mama Jones ready her spin-off reality show, titled “MAMA’s HOUSE”. He has rubbed elbows with all the elite in the business, and is getting ready to blow up even bigger than he already is becoming. We got the chance to interview him, and we talk about everything from “Love & Hip Hop”, and so much more. Stay tuned Here is the HILARIOUS video for Mama Jones’s “Psychotic” down below which features Freddie Robinson:
Special Musical Guest: Jesse Idol
With over 1.5 million impressions across the globe, and over 100,000 downloads of the smash single “Movie Night,” Jesse Idol is the future of R&B. A vocalist with superior showmanship, and sound, his work is a confident blend of smooth melodies and fresh offerings to R&B. Set to perform at Blaze The Stage August 13th,2011 via producer Pat Charles, after tearing down the BET’s 106 &Park Wild Out Wednesday stage February 2011.
Featured on single "TOWARDS THE SKY" alongside Rappers Billy Roadz & Maino in 2009 and Post Grammy performance on February 1, 2010 at Jamie Foxx’s Foxxhole Live at The Conga Room, the Idol Show has been hitting the social and stage scene at record speed with no red lights in sight.
Recognized by singersroom.com as one of 2010’s Artists to Watch, receiving over 75,000 downloads and streams for “Movie Night.” He grabbed the attention of MTV and Ourstage.com and was selected to be MTV's Needle In Haystack artist and Featured in Gotham Magazine April 2010 issue honoring Alicia Keys, he also gave an impromptu performance and Appeared on MTV’s “My Super Sweet 16” for Ch@sity at Blue Mirror in Newark, NJ. Jesse Idol opened for R&B recording artist Joe, and Hip Hop artist Vado and Cyhi Da Prince.
His music has gained major radio momentum on Power 105.1 (NY), Hot 97.1 (NY), and stations in Las Vegas and New Mexico and was added to Music Choice’s Hip Hop R&B format in regular rotation.
R&B music has only begun to take notice of Jesse Idol, but every performance proves to fans and peers that his unique vocals are a noteworthy force to be reckoned with.
Do you have to sever all ties with your EX's family? Should you break up with them as well? How vested should you be? When you are invited to that cook-out or Wedding and you are no longer a part of that family, should you accept? Do you get rid of photos that you Ex is a part of because the new person in your life might feel some type of way? Should you stop responding to text messages and stop accepting phone calls after the break up, remember this person is now your ex? If one of his or her friends asked you to hang out is it okay to go out with them. Let's Talk About It...
Special Musical Guest: Vangela Crowe
Back to bless Bks1 Radio with her powerful soulful voice. Vangela continues to deliver outstanding songs with a powerful message. Her latest single Peace is another testament to how talented a singer/writer/artist Vangela has become. Find out what Vangela has been up to, current projects, shows and more as she joins The Grown Sexy Situation! Check out the video for her single Greener and Vangela's latest single Peace can be heard at : http://soundcloud.com/azucar-digital/vangela-crowe-peace
Special Guest: Model/Actor/Director/Producer Shaheed Shaheed
The multi-talented Shaheed Shaheed joins The Grown Sexy Situation to discuss his latest project The Red BowTie. From Modeling to Acting and Directing Shaheed has been a part of the entertainment industry for some time and a major force in the game. Hear what he has to say about his experiences and learn from the knowledge that he will pass on about the industry and succeeding in the field.
Ever get involved with someone and your gut told you that, that person was not the person for u. So u ignored it and "WHAM"! All hell literally breaks lose.
You realize that he or she is not the person you thought they were. You see the RED FLAG waving so hard that you know it will eventually slap you in the face, but you ignore it because he or she is "HOT" and you just have to have that person!
In the end you know that you could have avoided the hurt and even resentment. So, how can you make better choices? How can you avoid the Red Flags.....let's discuss and see if we can change the way we make our relationship choices. Lets get Grown & Sexy with it!
MUSICAL GUEST CASSIO WARE
Newark New Jersey born Cassio James Vincent Ware II started off playing classical piano and then began freestyling on keyboards at his father's church and in club sensations with legendary DJ Naeem Johnson. He was a member of the Back Room Music Productions trio which included himself, Derrick Jenkins, and Dwayne Spen Richardson. This production company gave birth to the female diva trio JOMANDA. Cassio was also part of the group Ruffneck. He then branched off to pursue his singing career and work as a solo producer.
He teamed up with B.O.P. Productions producer Paul Scott and worked along side the garage stalwarts, Blaze. Who are responsible for his underground success in music with various hits such as, " My Baby Love", "Never Thought I See You Again", "Like Paradise", and the big hit "Funky People". Cassio has consistently developed his stage performance with the assistance of a group of producers, DJ Ruben Torro, Big Moises, Tee Alford and Allen Jeffrey, Godfather of house "Chip E.", DJ Danny Rod of Ultimate Ent., DJ Crime, DJ Dough Boy, the entire O.G. camp, dancers, singers, models, athletes and actors known as The Funky People. Now with Funky People Recordings Inc, he was responsible for the creation of "Funky People". Their debut single, aptly titled "Funky People", fused old school jazz and soul roots with crisp house beats and received the attention way beyond the ever-supportive Paul "Trouble" Anderson.
This was licensed to Slip 'N' Slide on this side of the Atlantic, Blaze and Masters At Work have added their seasoned touch to Cassio's individual style and undoubtedly increasingly influential house sound. Cassio Ware is currently the CEO of Cassio Ware Corp., Funky Soul Recordings, Groove Music Entertainment, and Chocolate Cake Inc.. He is currently remixing and producing and collaborating as an artist with various producers all over the world.
Special Guest: Actor David Emani
“David Emani is a handsome leading man who has all of New York a buzz with his emotionally stirring yet effortless stage performances.” “David Emani’s (playing Captain Davenport) stage presence alone, and in that uniform to bat, was so commanding it could even make women say, “Wow! Where do I sign up?” But I got more than just Wow! Emani is a talent that’s just waiting to explode on any major scene.”
By Janice D. Saddler, Esq. A Soldier’s Triumph, Soul Biz Online.
Emani is attended New School of Film and TV as well as HB Studio for his stage training. With his acting versatility and powerful, yet subtle presence, he has smoothly moved from starring theater roles to leading man status in numerous films over the last four years. After his leading role in the 2009 Turtleneck Gang he completed several plays before returning in the film in The Red Bowtie which opens this July 6th, playing opposite Shaheed Shaheed. David Emani will next appear as Pastor Mack in the 2013 release entitled Unveiled.
Topic: Forever Single-Some People Aren't Meant To Be Married!
You have so many Bridesmaid dresses that you can start your own boutique. Tired of being a Bridesmaid or the Groomsman catching the garter belt? That clock is ticking, everyone has done it once, twice or Hell third time is the charm and you haven't gotten there once!
Why? You wonder to yourself "am I marriage material" what is it about me that has me wondering if I will ever make it down that isle and have my King or Queen standing next to me....my forever, or will I forever just be a guest on the Wedding Roster?
Special Musical Guest: Debra Church
Debra Church, a talented singer and songwriter, is known for her soulful voice when performing in music lounges like Ashford & Simpson's "Sugar Bar" and "The Village Underground” in New York City. Born and raised in Alabama, Debra has been singing since a very young age and enjoys bringing out the powerful soul of her southern roots when she performs. She enjoys hosting youth-inspired events whereby she merges her musical talent with the goal of educating youth on various topics going in their community and in the world.
Debra is a joint partner of Master Plan Productions with talented music producer Darin "PianoMan" Whittington. Darin has produced hits for Mary J. Blige, Toni Braxton, Britney Spears, and more. Together, they teamed up to collaborate on various musical projects and create great music to perform as well as pitch to major artists. In 2011, Debra made an appearance on the national radio syndicated talk show (1190 WLIB in Harlem, NY) "Keeping It Real" with the Rev. Al Sharpton, where she performed a tribute song about Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Debra currently teaches vocal students at a private school in NY and she continues to write, record, promote, and perform her R&B soul/pop music for people all over the world.
Special Guest: Author Julie Ojeda Nin
Author Julie Ojeda Nin is here to talk about her book series Friends 'Til The End.